Sometimes, to know about happiness, you should be unhappy first.
Sometimes, you can simply feel happy for no particular reason.
Sometimes, you can be very good at deceiving yourself by saying to yourself that you are happy while in fact you are not. Only when you look back, and be truthful to yourself, you will realise that you were unhappy.
Knowing about yourself is the key to happiness, such as knowing your passion, your hobbies, your ideals, your strengths, your work or study patterns, etc. Therefore, in order to be happy, start exploring and discovering more about yourself.
Make a decision even if the decision will lead you to uncertainties. It has chances to be better or worse, but how worst could it be? Even if it’s worse, maybe it’s just something that has to happen to prepare you for a better future.
When I was in my last relationship, it took me 6 months or more to finally make a decision about something that I had been thinking about for a few months before. The relationship was good, but I just felt like I was trapped. It was pretty difficult to align my relationship with my goals, and I couldn’t find a way around it.
The reason why it took me a long time to make a decision was because I’m afraid of many things that seemed not real now. I was afraid of not being able to find a man like him, I was afraid because it seemed I didn’t know where to go and what to do if I wasn’t marrying him; I was thinking that how much chance I have to find a man who would like to marry me.
But when I look back, I realised how silly I was, how unimportant those fears and worries were because none of them actually happened. In fact, I’m happier now, to make the decision, and to live my values with a new guy who shares the same ideals and dreams with me.
But yeah, there’s a lot to discover about this guy.. I don’t wanna be too quickly in judging this man as I realised that I have made a false judgement before.
