Here you go - Why I decided to get married this year, after only less than 8 months of my relationship
When I was telling my friends that I’m getting married this year, some of them asked me straight away ‘Are you pregnant?’ or ‘Are you sure?’ or ‘Aren’t you too young?’ or ‘You guys haven’t been together even for a year’ and some of them simply said ‘Congratulation’.
It’s hard to explain in details why I or we decided to get married, but I will try to write it here by using a comparison technique as in International Relations, lol. The reason why I chose this technique is to answer this question, ‘Well, you said that you were going to marry your ex-bf before him, so what’s the difference between last time and now?’
I’m not going to compare the persons involved, but I’m going to compare my feelings in the relationships.
PREVIOUS BOYFRIEND
- I was thinking to marry him because I was scared of the future, I was seeking for certainty of my life plan by marrying him.
- I thought I could finally accept the differences between him and me.
- I was not sure. Everyday, I tried convincing myself that he’s the one, but there’s always a little voice in my head telling me ‘No, he isn’t’
- I spent everyday wishing that things would change, things would get better and I would be happy ever after. But, things never changed and I couldn’t find the happiness I was seeking.
- I was not sure if I wanted him to be the father of my children.
- When I was thinking of losing him, I was not afraid at all. I knew that I would be OK without him in my life.
CURRENT BOYFRIEND
- I could see myself growing old with him and loving him everyday.
- I would feel honoured to bear his children and raise them together.
- Happiness is flowing to my everyday’s life, even when I had a bad day. Thinking about him cheers me up.
- Losing him is the worst thing I could think of.
- I’m not afraid to be myself, to be really emotional and cranky, because I know he would always love me.
- There is not even a slightest doubt about marrying him or being with him forever because I know both of us put family as our priority.
- We spent almost 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and we are doing great. In fact, being away from each other is killing us.
- Everyday I feel loved.
The main difference here is I could see my future with my current partner while in the past, I didn’t see the future and I thought if I kept going, I would find it eventually.
I learned that the heart is a good compass when it comes to making an important life decision. If you can’t find an answer by using your mind, try to listen to your heart and it will tell you the answer.
Good luck for any girl out there who is in the pursuit of the right guy; they do exist. Those who say to you that the right guy doesn’t exist, they might haven’t met one.
Lastly, wish me luck with my relationship.
